Legal Protection against MALE VIOLENCE: Bangladesh and South Asian Perspective (part-1)

Legal Protection against MALE VIOLENCE:

Bangladesh and South Asian Perspective

........A Research  of  A.H.M  Atikullah Arefin Rasel

Historical development & conceptual framework of law on male violence

Historical background of  Male violence:

 Male violence exceeds female violence by a large margin. Starting in preschool, boys in Bangladesh are more likely to be disciplined and suspended for behavior and very social  problems. The primary stage of male abuse begins with being forced to work even at a very young age. Then constant social and family emotional abuse, abuse at work place and family abuse started when he grew up.

The mental torture of the wife begins. By adolescence, boys are four times more likely than girls to be arrested for violent crime. In adulthood, male violent crime is four times more common than female violent crime. And men are seven times more likely to commit serious violent crimes, such as murder, rape and robbery.

Among major ethnic groups in Bangladeshi Territory, only Asian Americans display little difference between male violence and female violence. Earlier they used to listen to their husbands, now they want to do whatever they want. And their promiscuous behavior, promiscuity and solitary mentality alienates the man from his family. As a result, men are destroyed by mental pain.

Early care giving and the emergence of male violence:

Research has shown that certain deficits in early care giving are linked to worse outcomes for boys than for girls. For example, sons of depressed mothers score lower than daughters on measures of attachment at 18 months of age. Similarly, sons who experience maternal insensitivity are more likely to display poorer executive function and more behavioral problems in primary school than girls who experience the same deficit at home.

Similar differences appear in measures of fathers’ sensitivity. For example, when fathers fail to exercise dominance during rough-and-tumble play (that is, establishing limits so that the child feels safe), boys are more likely than girls to show aggression and poor control of emotions five years later.

But the question remains:

Why are boys more affected by these care giving deficits than girls are? The authors propose that the slower maturation of boys during infancy expands the scope for stress in the social environment to have a negative impact on their development. Girls are protected to an extent by their more rapid development in early childhood.

Biological and neurobiological factors

In addition to slower development, other biological differences between boys and girls could be linked to differences in the development of male and female violence.

• Boys are more likely to have lower resting heart rates than girls, on average. Lower resting heart rates in children are associated with uncomfortable mood states, seeking stimulation, and antisocial behavior.
• Boys are more likely to have the [1]MAOA-L gene. This gene, when combined with abusive or neglectful care giving in early childhood, is associated with impulsive physical aggression later in life.
• Boys are exposed to higher levels of testosterone in the prenatal and prenatal periods of development and also starting in adolescence. Children’s exposure to testosterone is associated with less empathy and more aggression.
• Differences in the neurobiology of boys and girls at birth are now being studied to see whether they may point to differential vulnerability to problems in early childhood development.

Social and cultural environment:

Golding and Fitzgerald [2]consider the expanding social, economic and racial inequalities in the Bangladesh to be a critical factor in increasing the risk of male violence.

[3]The rise of single motherhood (4% of births in the 1950s, 35% 60 years later) is one factor. Single parenthood is associated with a wide range of pressures, for example, fewer economic resources, exposure to discrimination, more likelihood of exposure to conflict, and more mental health problems. All these incur risks for a mother’s ability to care for her children, to which, as described above, boys are more susceptible.

Currently, the most ancient traces of violence that have been found are those resulting from the practice of cannibalism. Marks of disarticulation, emaciation (the stripping of flesh), fracturing and calcination have been observed on Palaeolithic human bones. to have a history of violence: to have previously committed aggressive or violent acts, to have been violent in the past. idiom. Still having difficulties with 'History of violence'?

 Male Torture Act: Past History ‍and This is my personal opinion in my eye’s:

Many people have been urging me to write about the subject of the title for a long time. None of those who were urging are my personal acquaintances or friends. I often talk to them on the phone. Especially if any article is printed in Bangladesh daily they call. After talking about this and that, he reminded the subject of the title. According to them, even in Dhaka city, the amount and number of men's violence is more than women's violence in the whole country.

 Men torture in a single effort or unilaterally. Women, on the other hand, are abused at least three-dimensionally. They beat the men themselves and invite their girlfriends to carry out organized attacks. On the other hand, housewives who commit adultery with a powerful man, women who abuse their husbands by powerful townspeople or the towns people's cronies. Apart from the three-dimensional torture, police courts have made the life of the tortured men miserable with the multi-dimensional torture and torture of Kachari and community members on false charges. Therefore, these men want a male torture law on the pattern of women torture law to get rid of all the torture, oppression and tyranny inflicted on them. Similarly, they demanded a separate and distinct tribunal on the lines of the Women and Children Tribunal.

I keep pondering the pleas and requests of the callers. A bit of hesitance and hesitation overtook me. Because the readership of our country still cannot fully evaluate any news, editorial but comments. They easily equate and simplify everything. They think that everything a writer writes comes from his own experiences, interests, feelings and pains. Therefore, when writing about the title, a class of readers might think that the author might be beating Horroz's wife. Some may sympathize and say, brother! The future never kills you! How to kill or what to kill! Then let out a big sigh and say aha.

 What time has come! It is unthinkable that anyone can kill a god like you. There are other causes of writing disabilities. In my short life, I have rarely heard about male abuse from people. And I saw only one in my whole life. I learned the rest from newspapers, television news, Facebook and other social media. Before telling one story of male abuse I saw and another story my wife saw, let me tell you some important things about traditional Bengali man-woman conjugal relations and family practices that I saw in my golden childhood and adolescence.

I was born in an ideal village named Dhankundi very familar as Food village at Bogra District in Bangladesh. Rich and poor, Hindus and Muslims, elites and Harijans all lived there together. The younger ones respected their mentors and the older ones treated the younger ones as children. People of all professions respected each other and no one thought of cheating. Goala used to come to our house regularly to give curd, barber uncle used to come to cut hair. Dhopa kaka used to come to collect dirty clothes and Brahmin uncle who we called Ganak Tagore or Baun kaka used to come to judge our koshti.

 Out of this were Doctor Kaka, Ghosh Kaka and Master Mashai. Vendors used to come and sell pots, glass bangles, flutes, toys, mitai-mandas, kattaktis etc. The women and boys of the house used to handle these. On the other hand, the boys or the teachers did not bother about any matter at home. They used to sell their produce and buy fish, meat, clothes, etc. from distant market or ganj.

In our village, people of different communities used to live in groups and make separate mahalas in each area. Blacksmith, potter, fisherman, washerman, barber, chamar, cobbler, mutt, scavenger, saha, Brahmin, Chandal, householder, craftsman, cultivator, laborer, gardener, majhi, carpenter, gharami, karmkar (goldsmith) etc. -He lived together with his family in each area. Every family was very busy. Both men and women used to eat broken bones together. Even the youngest sons and daughters of the family had to work. Almost all the children were studying in school and college, but their parents or head of the family helped Ginny in household chores. The working environment of the family was such that the juveniles of well-to-do and well-to-do families were fed domestic animals like cows, goats, poultry etc. before going to school. They used to graze cattle and goats in the fields in the afternoon, fly kites and take turns cutting grass with the shepherds and if given the opportunity ride on the backs of buffaloes, cows or goats.

In my childhood and adolescence, I never saw husband and wife quarreling openly in any poor family, far from their own home. Never heard of forbidden relationship between men and women. Not a single case of love marriage happened in our village between 1967 and 1977. Can't say the next thing. Story listened from my father.

 Women respected men and men respected women. My grandfathers were many siblings. In front of Dada, other women of the family, including grandmother, would walk quietly with their heads down. I saw the same in the case of my father. I could not imagine that the other girls of the house including mother, aunts, aunts and uncles would come and sit in front of my father one day. When it was cooked, men would eat with their children first. Later, the girls of the house used to sit together and eat for a long time while chatting.

We are five and i am the one son including four sister. We have a big family with cousins, aunts and uncles. In all there will be thousands. I am the eldest child in the family, running the family in almost the same parallel though not like the paternal grandfather. As a result, I don't have much of the practical knowledge needed to write something about male abuse in this situation. However, it is possible to compose an epic even if you write about what you can imagine due to the surrounding conditions.

Before going into detail about this matter, two real examples of male violence are given. The incident happened in 1996. The gentleman who owns the office next to me came to visit. 35/36 year old stylish gentleman. Before starting business, he was a personal secretary to a president. Within a few days of talking, our closeness and intimacy developed.

One day the gentleman told with a foul mouth that his wife often beat him. Beat it with whatever you have at hand. If the man grabs his wife's hands to restrain her or tries to catch her from the front or behind, the woman bites him. The gentleman killed the father! The woman does not stop biting until she screams 'I'm dead' etc. The incident seemed unbelievable to me. As soon as I said that, the gentleman took off his shirt and proceeded to show me where his wife had implanted several teeth and hit various parts of the body with sticks, twigs and bread balloons. The second story is from my wife. I then worked as a shift in charge of the news department of a reputed national daily.

 No separate house at sewrapara in Dhanmondi for some days with Abba's permission. Another newly married couple lived in the flat next to us. Husband and wife work in the same office. The husband is tall, broad and healthy. Even if the height is reduced, it will be six feet. On the other hand, the height of the wife is five feet.

Dark complexion, big body and not attractive at all. We used to wonder why husbands treat such wives so much. One day I came back from the office and saw my wife with a heavy face. He said to ask, know! Today, the future brother of the neighboring house has been killed a lot. Brutally beaten.

One of the stories I mentioned happened in 1996 and the other in 1989. In 2015, there was an epidemic in most of the cases of husband-wife relationship in Bangladesh. A lot of ugly news of husband murder by wife's lover, domestic helper, cook, janitor, peon, driver and housewives' illicit affair are often published in newspapers.

On the other hand, there are hundreds of cases where a mother of three children has escaped from the hands of her son's age tutor. In the clubs of the rich in the capital, the drinking and gambling sessions of men and women and the free sex have been criticized by many. Hundreds of Rangmahals have been built in different neighborhoods.

College and university-educated girls go there to indulge in immoral pleasures by doing various feats and earn extra income and live a luxurious life with that money. Housewives are not sitting. They also go to those Rang Mahals. Some go with their citizens to do the crime safely. Others go for ready-made Nagar dola.

The sacred relationships of father-son, mother-daughter, son-in-law-mother-in-law, father-in-law-daughter-in-law, brother-in-law-daughter-in-law, brother-in-law-brother-in-law etc. have started to be tarnished in the society. The dirty infighting and conflict of families over financial power, interests and sexuality cannot be expressed in words. Each family is like a piece of hell. In an elite club in the capital, a 63-year-old rich businessman said that he has 20/25 female friends, who are under 35 years of age.

 Among them, when the married women come to the designated hotel to commit crimes, the husbands of those women take their wives to the hotel. The adultery of male and female officials in many public and private offices is an open secret to all concerned.

Prostitution, adultery, rape, forced marriage, etc. existed in the society from early times. But the thing to note is that since time immemorial men have been leading these actions. On the other hand, the society hated these criminals. Their work was hindered and they were considered undesirable in the society.

 Apart from this, beating of wife, daughter or dependent widowed sister, brother's wife etc by men in the name of rule was also a daily occurrence in some society. Through newspapers, we get sensational news of hundreds of cases of torture and killing of wife or daughter-in-law by the whole family for dowry.

For the last 30/35 years, the state has been trying with all its might to make women educated, healthy and empowered because men used to take advantage of women's weakness, disability and helplessness. At present all the authorities are trying hard to provide women with extraordinary facilities, security, shelter and individual space in our state facilities. New workplaces, titles and spheres of power are being created for women.

State efforts of the last 30/35 years have resulted in considerable empowerment of women. On the other hand, in the changing society, the beauty and qualities given by the masculine nature of men have been fatally destroyed. Men have so involved themselves in bribery, corruption, lawlessness, lying, adultery, injustice, crime, oppression, gambling, alcohol, cheating, etc. that women do not find men to respect.

The desire to depend on the man of the family, trust and trust or to love him from the heart is losing. Women who have power first obstruct, then quarrel, and finally begin to abuse men. That's the initial phase of the incident. In the second phase he became a feminist and a dictator. She also takes turns with her husband and starts injustice, torture, adultery according to her strength. In the third phase, the young people of the family, the nannies and the nannies also poison the society by doing mischief with the housekeeper.

Due to the reverse evolution of the society, the immoral activities of girls, competition, bad habits etc. spread from one family to another like a virus. As a result, many innocent, honest and genuine gentlemen are subjected to brutal physical and mental abuse by the ambitious wives, daughters and sisters of their families.

Those women at first started saying to the earning man of the family, ``Omuk bhai earns so much money, why can't you?'' When the man continues to plead for honesty, the women say, Goshti mari your honesty.

There are no clothes and he is honest! Then the women gradually step down the path of darkness and find a genial partner who is corrupt, corrupt and sensual in nature. Their passion for doing bad things increases so much that they invite their bad friends to their homes and start playing in front of their husbands and children. If a husband tries to prevent this, he is subjected to multi-faceted torture and terror and is eventually killed or murdered.

People who use social media, especially Facebook, Skype, WhatsApp, Viber, Tango, YouTube, MSN, etc., know very well that the level of immorality between men and women has reached. Many do not sleep through the night, each of them spends the night with hundreds of people of the opposite sex talking and doing things that are impossible to describe in words. As a result, during the day, these people move around with a tired body, poisonous thoughts and a dirty mind, starting from every position.

Became a mighty pharaoh, a violent robber like Abu Jahel or Mokim Gazi. Previously, these titles were exclusively enjoyed by men. Now women have largely occupied the victor's seat, competing to become Pharaoh, Abu Jahel or Mokim Ghazi. They have no parents to torture, no choice of husband, son or daughter. In this situation, helpless victims can demand security from the state. On the other hand, what the state will do for its oppressed male group is only the authority's prerogative.

2.2  Terminologies used in the research

The most important thing to understand this research is to know the definition. Because what I mean will be the basic idea in the definition. For example, to understand the law, one must first know the definitions of the legal terms.

2.2.1  Male

A man is an adult male human. Prior to adulthood, a male human is referred to as a boy (a male child or adolescent).

2.2.2 Violence

What do we mean by violence?

Violence is defined by the World Health Organization in the WRVH as “the intentional use of physical force or power, threatened or actual, against oneself, another person, or against a group or community, that either results in or has a high likelihood of resulting in injury, death, psychological harm. 

2.2.3 Female

a female person is a woman or a girl or an individual of the sex that is typically capable of bearing young or producing eggs.

2.2.4 Family

 A family is a group of two or more persons related by birth, marriage, or adoption who live together; all such related persons are considered as members of one family.

2.2.5 Society

The state of being together with other people: She prefers her own society (= likes to be alone). More examples. A fair justice system is a fundamental part of a civilized society. In most countries, the family unit is still the cornerstone of society.